Any advice? Broken Tail & future in-laws

[Dimple1]

Okay... I have a problem..and I need advice/help. I found my adult male cat about a year ago on my fiances parents land. It was obvious he wasnt in the best shape but I took care of him and got him his shots. He's so loving and he loved car rides. My fiance bought a home and we just moved in not too long ago.. well we found out that my cat (Pants) was leaking urine while he was sleeping. I took him to the vet and they said his tail was broken from what looks like a car accident. I KNOW he didnt do this when I first found him because he never leaked in the car and when he was laying outside. Now he lives in our basement and I clean up after him daily. Well my fiance and his family will not leave the subject alone they think I should put him to sleep and get a new pet. They think I should let him outside! (WE LIVE BY A MAIN RODE) Now they are going to take him back to there land...WHY WOULD I TAKE MY CAT BACK THERE WHEN THEY DONT EVEN LIKE HIM!!! This has been a huge problem and on going fight... Any advice? I am not about the put my cat to sleep because of this.. I asked the doctor if he was in any pain and he said no he's probably just numb. I am wondering if maybe getting his tail amputated would help? I can see he has feeling at the very tip but the rest just dangles. ANY ADVICE??????

[nanamouse]

Gee, I have no advice of my own, but we do have a member here, Layla, who has a cat that was paralyzed after being hit by a car and manually expresses the cats bladder. I'll have to give you her name in edit, because I just realized it's the cat who is named Layla, and I've forgotten the owners user name.:o

It does sound like you and your fiance have some major differences of opinion on raising pets, it might be a good idea to find your middle of the road compromise on this issue before getting married, and definately before having kids. The only time Gary and I argue is over the grandkids, thank goodness mine and his were grown before we met, or it would be ugly.

OK, it's crazycatlady who may have practical advice for Pant's leaking.

[That_girl]

As someone who comes from a situation with a dis-approving family-in-law, I would say, leave them out of this. They are entitled to their opinions, and you can thank them for having them, but honestly, this is between you and your future husband. You are building YOUR OWN LIFE together. They should have no say in what you do with your cat.

For a long time, I was fearful of upsetting my in-laws, but now I am strong enough to say, thanks for your opinion, but it's MY life and I will do as I please.

You need to find a peaceful night and sit down for a serious conversation about this situation. Having special needs animals is a challenge that you both need to be willing to face together. If your child had a potty problem, you wouldn't dump him and exchange for a new one. Pets should be treated the same way. They are helpless.

If you absolutely cannot get your future husband to accept this cat, then there are rescues out there that will take special needs animals. Make sure you do your research before turning your cat over. And by no means, do NOT try and give your cat to someone who is not prepared for this. And I can almost garauntee any shelter will euthanize because they normally don't adopt out animals with major problems.