View Full Version : Veterinarian will be missed...
10-15-2008, 08:07 PM
Today, around lunch time...our boss comes into the surgery room, and informs us that a local veterinarian that we all know was found dead in his home.
He is one that works 40 hours at his day clinic, and 40 hours at the emergency clinic...he is a work-a-holic. He'd called in sick for two days, and on the third day no one could get a hold of him. ...completely out of the norm for him. So, a few techs from his day clinic went to his house and found him dead.
Apparently, his wife served him with divorce papers a few days ago, and he had asked her to reconsider, she told him no.
He killed himself shortly after by Carbon Monoxide poisoning. They say veterinarians have an extremely high suicide rate...most certainly is true.
10-15-2008, 09:20 PM
Wow. Sounds like he'll be missed in the animal community, and I hate to imagine how his wife feels about his reaction to the divorce.
10-15-2008, 09:33 PM
I worry more about how his children will feel. He left two (very) young boys. We were discussing him at work. (My boss was a good friend of his). The general consensus was, if he had taken an overdose of his medication, then it could be labeled as an accident. But, since he locked himself in his garage with a portable generator, there was no denying he wanted to die. Will those boys be able to accept that Daddy didn't love them enough to stick around for them? Or will they forever blame Mommy for causing Daddy to take his life? It's just a sad situation all around.
10-16-2008, 02:18 AM
What a tragic loss for all involved.
10-16-2008, 11:49 AM
That is very sad. Poor guy, and poor family.
10-16-2008, 12:29 PM
It is very sad, especially considering that there were children involved. What an awful way to remember you father.
10-16-2008, 02:02 PM
After having gone through 2 family suicides already, I can empathize with how much pain the wife and children have and will go through....for years to come.
I hope the family finds ways to heal and move on with their lives, when they are ready. My mom is still dealing with it 5 years later with no sign of it getting better soon.
I have a different opinion on suicide than most, but I do know how much pain it causes loved ones and ones who know the person well.
I didn't know that vets have a high rate of suicide...interesting...
10-16-2008, 02:36 PM
My closest friend going back almost 20 years commited suicide in 1988. Looking back it was so plain that he planned to end his life, but it was so out of character for him that no one suspected a thing until it too late.
I lost touch with his family after that, so I don't know how it affected them, but I do know that what it did to me has changed my life in ways that can never be reversed. I remember the funeral, I remember starting my car when I left the graveside service. The next five and a half months are still a blank. I must have gone to work, as I still had the same job, must have taken care of my kids as they were healthy and clothed, but I did it all on autopilot. When I became aware of things again, I was not the same person I had been.
It was that experience that prevented me from doing the same thing 8 years later. While life seemed (and darn near was) unbearable at that point, I felt I didn't have the right to put the people who loved me through that, no matter what I had to endure. While it's incredibly painful to lose someone you love to accident or illness, the guilt that overwhelms you when you lose them to suicide increases the pain to an unmeasurable degree.
10-16-2008, 02:36 PM
that is so very tragic...my thoughts and prayers are with that family.