New Cat Old Cat....Making Friends

[Jeanne4Cats]

Hello Everyone, I am new to this forum and new some advice. I have a new cat, a 2 year old (female) Calico named "Cali" and I have a (12 year old) Scottish Fold named "Fozzy". I have had Cali for 4 days and even though they aren't fighting, Fozzy still seems a little apprehensive with Cali but she has gotten past that stage and tries to follow him and make friends, so am I rushing things to think that the "getting to know each other" stage is over or is there still time for them to become friends? I had a black ally cat named "Sadie" (14 yrs. old) who had feline diabetes and was very ill and down to about 5 lbs and I just couldn't let her suffer anymore and had her put down. Her sugar level was at a deadly level and I know she was in pain, and I had to let her go so we got Cali hoping he would not be so lonely. The funny thing about all of this is with Sadie and Fozzy, she didn't like him but they tolerated each other and now it is the other way around, he doesn't like Cali too much as yet so does anyone have any advice? With him being so much older I am wondering if I made a mistake and getting one full grown or would it have been worse with a kitten????

[horsefeather]

jeanne, first of all welcome to the board you found a good friendly one. second, im so sorry to hear about your poor kittie with diabetes. i understand how that can be hard. i used to work for a vet and a client brought thier 16 yr old male in with diabetes. the poor thing had gone into siezures. we tried to help by giving dextrose and iv fluids, but to no avail--the put him down 2 days later. so i understand how you feel.

thirdly, i dont know how much help i can be with the cat intros, seeing how my own cat forced me to give up my new kitten--the next day. (better safe than emergency vet bill--lets just leave it at that). anyway, i think they still may need more time. remember, fozzie just lost his kittie friend, even though they werent close theres nothing better than familiarity. i think its good that you didnt get a kitten--which might be bouncy and frighten him. at least theyre not fighting and hissing at each other. i would give it more time. cats can coexist without liking each other. and you never know, he may begin to like her alot.

was fozzie a single cat for a while after sadie died? or did you get a new cat right away. he may still be missing her and all of a sudden theres this new cat in her place.

i say give it time. im sure they'll work it out. they usually do (unless of course you live in my house).

[Jeanne4Cats]

thank You Horsefeather for your reply. first of all I am sorry you had to get rid of your kitten so soon. I know they say it takes several days and it is a shame that it didn't work out for you. That is the reason I was reluctant in getting a kitten. Sadie was 2 years old before we got Fozzy and it took them several weeks, but that worked out, but there is a big age difference between Fozzy and Cali so I just thought someone out there might have some advice on it. Sadie passed back in early March so he had been alone for 2 months before we got Cali and he moped and paced for several weeks so that is why we got another cat thinking that just having another one may keep him happy. she is very loving with us, as a matter of fact she adores my husband and wont leave him alone!!! :p

[pet95]

I think you should have kept the kitten but its still okay for getting an adult. i had a cat that was almost an adult,but if you get a kitten it will learn more faster and it will no what to do when its an adult ;) .A kittens going to grow up to be a cat(adult) anyway :rolleyes:.